Comments on: Home is Unconditional Love http://growingupinoz.com/2010/07/27/unconditional-love/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=unconditional-love Just another WordPress site Mon, 13 Feb 2012 17:28:43 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.4 By: TheFeministBreeder http://growingupinoz.com/2010/07/27/unconditional-love/#comment-1100 TheFeministBreeder Thu, 29 Jul 2010 01:51:10 +0000 http://raisingmadison.com/?p=962#comment-1100 This is especially timely as we pack up our flooded house to downsize into an apartment farther from the city than I ever imagined we'd be. Like you, I grew up a nomad, though our circumstances were very different. Mine was from poverty and homelessness, so my goal my entire life was to plant roots somewhere and never, never, ever, ever leave (and I mean, as in, die in that house and have my ashes sprinkled in the back yard.) Unfortunately, owning a home requires money that we just don't have right now. I'm a student, my husband is a student, and neither of us are settled in our careers. When I think about the fact that we may not be able to buy a house until I'm 40, I seriously want to blow my brains out. It makes my whole body hurt. I HATE being unsettled. We've lived in this house for 3 years. That's twice as long as I have ever lived anywhere in my life. And it was the first house I ever lived in. No, it wasn't mine - we rented - but it FELT like ours. The landlord hasn't been here since we signed the lease 3 years ago. Leaving this place makes me sick. Leaving this place to move into an apartment complex makes me even sicker. And leaving this place to move to a real-live suburb has my Chicago-Born-And-Raised Husband absolutely crawling out of his skin. But we're doing it. I guess. This is especially timely as we pack up our flooded house to downsize into an apartment farther from the city than I ever imagined we’d be.

Like you, I grew up a nomad, though our circumstances were very different. Mine was from poverty and homelessness, so my goal my entire life was to plant roots somewhere and never, never, ever, ever leave (and I mean, as in, die in that house and have my ashes sprinkled in the back yard.) Unfortunately, owning a home requires money that we just don’t have right now. I’m a student, my husband is a student, and neither of us are settled in our careers. When I think about the fact that we may not be able to buy a house until I’m 40, I seriously want to blow my brains out. It makes my whole body hurt. I HATE being unsettled.

We’ve lived in this house for 3 years. That’s twice as long as I have ever lived anywhere in my life. And it was the first house I ever lived in. No, it wasn’t mine – we rented – but it FELT like ours. The landlord hasn’t been here since we signed the lease 3 years ago. Leaving this place makes me sick. Leaving this place to move into an apartment complex makes me even sicker. And leaving this place to move to a real-live suburb has my Chicago-Born-And-Raised Husband absolutely crawling out of his skin.

But we’re doing it. I guess.

]]> By: Alex @alexcampbell11 http://growingupinoz.com/2010/07/27/unconditional-love/#comment-1099 Alex @alexcampbell11 Tue, 27 Jul 2010 23:32:14 +0000 http://raisingmadison.com/?p=962#comment-1099 In the 4 years my husband and I been together we have lived (counting, counting) 6 different places! And right now we actually have a very temporary place to call home and have no idea what the next 6 months to a year hold for us or where we will actually live. But I always feel at home no matter where we are. Like Jill said. As long as I can take my bra off and let those big ol puppies air out I'm good. Good luck with everything! And kudos to you for making a very adult decision. More people p probably should. In the 4 years my husband and I been together we have lived (counting, counting) 6 different places! And right now we actually have a very temporary place to call home and have no idea what the next 6 months to a year hold for us or where we will actually live.

But I always feel at home no matter where we are. Like Jill said. As long as I can take my bra off and let those big ol puppies air out I’m good.

Good luck with everything! And kudos to you for making a very adult decision. More people p probably should.

]]> By: Suz B http://growingupinoz.com/2010/07/27/unconditional-love/#comment-1098 Suz B Tue, 27 Jul 2010 19:04:07 +0000 http://raisingmadison.com/?p=962#comment-1098 Great post Jill! Love this line ~ "HOME is the who and the love you put in those houses, and that can go anywhere with you." I'm loving this home theme. Welcome to your new home Joanna! Great post Jill! Love this line ~ “HOME is the who and the love you put in those houses, and that can go anywhere with you.”
I’m loving this home theme. Welcome to your new home Joanna!

]]> By: thenextmartha http://growingupinoz.com/2010/07/27/unconditional-love/#comment-1097 thenextmartha Tue, 27 Jul 2010 16:50:46 +0000 http://raisingmadison.com/?p=962#comment-1097 Joanna, I know that you will be bringing everything that matters with you. And that's what makes your home filled with love. As always, nice post Jill. Joanna, I know that you will be bringing everything that matters with you. And that’s what makes your home filled with love. As always, nice post Jill.

]]> By: Suzanne http://growingupinoz.com/2010/07/27/unconditional-love/#comment-1096 Suzanne Tue, 27 Jul 2010 16:10:33 +0000 http://raisingmadison.com/?p=962#comment-1096 Ah, I totally understand. Being raised as a military brat really influences how you feel about home for your whole life. For me, it's continued (probably for 10 more years or so) by marrying into the military as well. I actually think it makes me pretty lucky to have so many loving people in different places to come home to. Ah, I totally understand. Being raised as a military brat really influences how you feel about home for your whole life. For me, it’s continued (probably for 10 more years or so) by marrying into the military as well. I actually think it makes me pretty lucky to have so many loving people in different places to come home to.

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